We so often value logic and discount the value of emotions – well not today! Today, parent coach Alison Smith tells us about the importance of emotions and gives us ideas on how to help our kids develop their emotional intelligence.
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The importance of emotional intelligence is beyond just knowing that we have emotions and your children have emotions, so we need to deal with them.
Emotional Quotient (EQ) is our emotional intelligence. Our EQ is a better predictor of our future success than IQ.
When we are unable to identify within ourselves a particular emotion that we are feeling, it stays stuck inside. So, we don’t deal with it in a proactive and healthy manner.
When we can pinpoint the exact emotion that we are experiencing, we can physically feel a change. It feels lighter and less intimidating. We can grow in our confidence, take a deep breath, and feel more ready to take on what we are faced with.
In the English language there are about 30,000 words related to emotions. But, we typically only use about twelve words. Until we can state the emotion that is very specific to what we are feeling, we are still stuck. The emotion will then grow until we explode, leak, or both.
By growing our emotional vocabulary development and recognizing it within ourselves and others we grow our empathy towards what it is others are experiencing. If we can pinpoint the emotions others are feeling (or take our best guess), then we can almost immediately feel more compassion towards them. Our interactions and communication will then be very different once we get a sense of where they are coming from. This can change relationships at home between parents with their children, couples, and parents with grandparents.
Alison recommends a card game called You EQ that can help build one’s EQ.
- There are cards called Conversational EQ because we are using conversation to develop our intelligence and also using conversation in the real world after the game.
- Each card has an emotion on it. The simplest way to play is to identify the feeling that you have on your card and then say something about your thinking in relation to the emotion.
- There is no big conversation about it. There isn’t any feedback for each other, besides saying, “Thanks for sharing.”
- This game should ideally be played several times a week for approximately ten minutes. It can be played with your kids, colleagues, work team, etc.
- This game will help retrain your brain and improve conversation.
- There are about five different ways to play with each deck and each deck has a different focus. So, there is always something new.
- Today I Feel…: An Alphabet of Feelings
- This book helps grow your child’s emotional vocabulary, which is an important starting place for emotional intelligence.
- The Ungame
- This is a non-competitive board game that works on improving your social and communication skills.
References & Resources:
Michele Borba’s book: UnSelfie: How Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All About Me World
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